"One song can change your life" just as it did for Shaheen Jafargholi, 12 year old singer from Whales. This is a great life lesson on telling the "truth". We all have experienced the disappointment that young Shaheen did when Simon stopped him from singing and told him that he got it all wrong. Shaheen was given another chance to sing the "right song that changed his life".
It takes a coach and mentor to tell you the truth when you don't want to hear it, just as Shaheen didn't want to hear that the song he chose to sing was not the right song for him. When Simon (the mentor) stopped him and told him the truth, Shaheen immediately made the decision to perform another song that "changed his life".
Just as the "right song" changed a young boy's life, so can the "right five pillars company" and the "right system" change your network marketing business. You can't build your business by yourself. You need the right system and team to help you every step of the way.
If you want to take your network marketing business to the next level and work with a team of "true mentors" then download Success in 10 Steps free e-book. Most network marketers who read this e-book have discovered the power of making a decision to choose the "right song", but some just stay frustrated because they don't want to hear the truth.
Be the leader you were created to be!
Lidie Gray
A Mentor With a Servant's Heart
270-385-9885
lidiegray@gmail.com
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Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Friday, November 21, 2008
From a True Mentor's Heart
The e-mail below from Ernie who was at the Jacksonville
Freedom Tour seminar gives the best explanation of what
"BEING" a "Mentor With A Servant's Heart" is all about.
Ernie sent this to Michael Dlouhy and I thought that I would
share it with you. Please call me at 270-205-4168 or send email to
lidiegray@gmail.com to find out if Michael is coming to your area.
You don't want to miss out on this event.
Begin email...
Hi Michael, it's Ernie Hines writing to thank you for
sharing your Books and CD's as they have had a profound
impact on the way I Desire to conduct myself and my
business..
Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical
knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand
parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends.
I have found the word goes back to Homer's Odyssey a
story which tells how before leaving on his long journey,
Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide
his son. That friend's name was Mentor.
Having been with Mentoring for Free less than a month,
has allowed me to study and make some observations
from the book by Marc Freedman, "The kindness of
strangers" that there are 7 habits of highly effective
mentors and they are first and foremost
1. Listening:::
It is the only way mentors can understand what people
are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.
2. Building a relationship:::
In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to
take time to build a relationship and establish a firm
connection. this means carefully cultivating trust..It
means being patient. Many people will test mentors
to see if they are for real.
3. Respecting boundaries:::
When mentors ask people personal questions before
a solid relationship has been established, the most
common response is silence. People will clam up.
Mentors who do not respect their mentees' needs
for privacy are often quick to alienate them.
4. Being sensitive to differences:::
It is necessary to realize that mentors and those
they work with come from different worlds, a reality
even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged.
This means being aware of the embarrassment a
person might feel about being poor.
5. Providing support and challenges:::
Successful mentors are consistently there for people,
delivering a sustained message 'You are important"
when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling
people what to do and instead work with them to
address the problems. These mentors are eventually
able to strike a balance between supporting and
challenging both nurturing people and pushing them
toward their goals.
6. Acknowledging reciprocity:::
While mentors often have to provide the initiative
early in the relationship as trust is being established,
mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and
struggles are present on both sides, and mentors
who are able to convey they are there for mutual
exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest
chance of making a solid connection.
7. Being realistic:::
Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help
people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin,
tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the
cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few
virtues in mentoring rival ongoing commitment and
genuine caring.
Anyway after listening to you on audio and meeting
you in person has turned on something inside like a
(multi colored) lightbulb and I can finally see the
forest of trees, shrubs, plants and animals for what
they really are, opportunity.
Thank You
Ernie Hines
End email...
Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!
Lidie Gray
270-385-9885 (call anytime)
A Servant with a Mentor's Heart
Success In 10 Steps Free Ebook
Freedom Tour seminar gives the best explanation of what
"BEING" a "Mentor With A Servant's Heart" is all about.
Ernie sent this to Michael Dlouhy and I thought that I would
share it with you. Please call me at 270-205-4168 or send email to
lidiegray@gmail.com to find out if Michael is coming to your area.
You don't want to miss out on this event.
Begin email...
Hi Michael, it's Ernie Hines writing to thank you for
sharing your Books and CD's as they have had a profound
impact on the way I Desire to conduct myself and my
business..
Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical
knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand
parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends.
I have found the word goes back to Homer's Odyssey a
story which tells how before leaving on his long journey,
Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide
his son. That friend's name was Mentor.
Having been with Mentoring for Free less than a month,
has allowed me to study and make some observations
from the book by Marc Freedman, "The kindness of
strangers" that there are 7 habits of highly effective
mentors and they are first and foremost
1. Listening:::
It is the only way mentors can understand what people
are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.
2. Building a relationship:::
In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to
take time to build a relationship and establish a firm
connection. this means carefully cultivating trust..It
means being patient. Many people will test mentors
to see if they are for real.
3. Respecting boundaries:::
When mentors ask people personal questions before
a solid relationship has been established, the most
common response is silence. People will clam up.
Mentors who do not respect their mentees' needs
for privacy are often quick to alienate them.
4. Being sensitive to differences:::
It is necessary to realize that mentors and those
they work with come from different worlds, a reality
even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged.
This means being aware of the embarrassment a
person might feel about being poor.
5. Providing support and challenges:::
Successful mentors are consistently there for people,
delivering a sustained message 'You are important"
when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling
people what to do and instead work with them to
address the problems. These mentors are eventually
able to strike a balance between supporting and
challenging both nurturing people and pushing them
toward their goals.
6. Acknowledging reciprocity:::
While mentors often have to provide the initiative
early in the relationship as trust is being established,
mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and
struggles are present on both sides, and mentors
who are able to convey they are there for mutual
exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest
chance of making a solid connection.
7. Being realistic:::
Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help
people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin,
tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the
cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few
virtues in mentoring rival ongoing commitment and
genuine caring.
Anyway after listening to you on audio and meeting
you in person has turned on something inside like a
(multi colored) lightbulb and I can finally see the
forest of trees, shrubs, plants and animals for what
they really are, opportunity.
Thank You
Ernie Hines
End email...
Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!
Lidie Gray
270-385-9885 (call anytime)
A Servant with a Mentor's Heart
Success In 10 Steps Free Ebook
Sunday, October 12, 2008
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Lidie Gray
270-205-4168
lidiegray@gmail.com
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Straight Talk About Network Marketing Leaders Part 1
Effective network marketing leaders give direction and motivate their team to action. They are sincerely interested in the welfare of those whom they lead. They will not force, intimidate, coerce or push anyone into doing something against their will. Effective leadership is not simply about getting to the top, but it is about releasing others to do the same.
The first and main characteristic of an effective network marketer is being a “servant-leader”; you lead first by serving and loving. Your willingness to serve others will encourage and attract others to join you in your endeavors. When you contribute to another person’s profitability you prove your faithfulness to him or her, thus you contribute to your own profitability.
Not every effective leader is a “servant-leader”. Take Hitler, for example: he was very effective in motivating others but he was evil and “unimaginably destructive”. It is important to know the characteristics of a “servant-leader” so that you do not innocently end up following a leader who will ultimately destroy you. Or so you will not become an “authority seeker” which ultimately ends up in destroying your followers as well as yourself.
“Authority seekers” seek authority over people; money and control are their bottom line. These are the people who try to exercise authority when they have not been given the responsibility: remember responsibility precedes authority, thus “authority seekers” do not fall under the characteristics of a “servant-leader”. They do not seek to contribute to the welfare of others.
Watch for the second characteristic of an effective network-marketing leader to be posted in a couple of days.
If you want to learn more about how to be an effective network-marketing leader then I invite you to join our team, Mentoring for Free, where you will learn “how to think not what to think”. We offer free mentoring and coaching to all network marketers, no matter what company they are with.
I’m looking forward to serving you.
Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!
Lidie Gray
A Mentor with a Servant’s Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-book
The first and main characteristic of an effective network marketer is being a “servant-leader”; you lead first by serving and loving. Your willingness to serve others will encourage and attract others to join you in your endeavors. When you contribute to another person’s profitability you prove your faithfulness to him or her, thus you contribute to your own profitability.
Not every effective leader is a “servant-leader”. Take Hitler, for example: he was very effective in motivating others but he was evil and “unimaginably destructive”. It is important to know the characteristics of a “servant-leader” so that you do not innocently end up following a leader who will ultimately destroy you. Or so you will not become an “authority seeker” which ultimately ends up in destroying your followers as well as yourself.
“Authority seekers” seek authority over people; money and control are their bottom line. These are the people who try to exercise authority when they have not been given the responsibility: remember responsibility precedes authority, thus “authority seekers” do not fall under the characteristics of a “servant-leader”. They do not seek to contribute to the welfare of others.
Watch for the second characteristic of an effective network-marketing leader to be posted in a couple of days.
If you want to learn more about how to be an effective network-marketing leader then I invite you to join our team, Mentoring for Free, where you will learn “how to think not what to think”. We offer free mentoring and coaching to all network marketers, no matter what company they are with.
I’m looking forward to serving you.
Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!
Lidie Gray
A Mentor with a Servant’s Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-book
Saturday, September 6, 2008
A New Chance for Frustrated Network Marketers
Are you frustrated with the results that you are getting in your network marketing business? Do you wonder why some people succeed and others fail in MLM?
I've been involved in the network marketing industry for over 15 years and became very frustrated because I did not get the results that so many others seemed to get. I did what I was told to do. I made my list of family and friends, advertised, bought leads, approached strangers, etc. I exhausted my list and resources very quickly and it was all to no avail. Yes, people did join me in my company, but not nearly enough to make the income that I desired. I just could not get people to see the bigger picture of how this industry could help them “own their life”.
So you may be thinking why am I still in the business? Because I believe in the principle of network marketing. We all do it on a daily basis. Have you ever gone to a great restaurant and told a friend about it? Have you ever watched a movie and told your friends that they have to watch it? Of course you have! We all have. Think about it…you are being a “network marketer” when you do this. You just don’t get paid for it whereas a professional network marketer does.
My downfall was that I believed that MLM was a sales business. That is until I met a very special lady, Irma White, who introduced me to Michael Dlouhy and Mentoring for Free. Now I know the truth. It is a teaching and mentoring business. This is so much easier for me. I’m now doing what I love to do…teaching and mentoring people to live their life more abundantly: financially, emotionally/spiritually, and physically.
So, if you are a frustrated network marketer you have a new chance. I invite you to download Michael’s FREE e-book Success in 10 Steps and find out why your lack of success in your MLM company is not your fault. You can own your life. I believe in you!
Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!
Lidie Gray
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