From a True Mentor's Heart

The e-mail below from Ernie who was at the Jacksonville
Freedom Tour seminar gives the best explanation of what
"BEING" a "Mentor With A Servant's Heart" is all about.

Ernie sent this to Michael Dlouhy and I thought that I would
share it with you. Please call me at 270-205-4168 or send email to
lidiegray@gmail.com to find out if Michael is coming to your area.
You don't want to miss out on this event.

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Hi Michael, it's Ernie Hines writing to thank you for
sharing your Books and CD's as they have had a profound
impact on the way I Desire to conduct myself and my
business..

Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical
knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand
parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends.

I have found the word goes back to Homer's Odyssey a
story which tells how before leaving on his long journey,
Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide
his son. That friend's name was Mentor.

Having been with Mentoring for Free less than a month,
has allowed me to study and make some observations
from the book by Marc Freedman, "The kindness of
strangers" that there are 7 habits of highly effective
mentors and they are first and foremost

1. Listening:::

It is the only way mentors can understand what people
are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.

2. Building a relationship:::

In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to
take time to build a relationship and establish a firm
connection. this means carefully cultivating trust..It
means being patient. Many people will test mentors
to see if they are for real.

3. Respecting boundaries:::

When mentors ask people personal questions before
a solid relationship has been established, the most
common response is silence. People will clam up.
Mentors who do not respect their mentees' needs
for privacy are often quick to alienate them.

4. Being sensitive to differences:::

It is necessary to realize that mentors and those
they work with come from different worlds, a reality
even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged.
This means being aware of the embarrassment a
person might feel about being poor.

5. Providing support and challenges:::

Successful mentors are consistently there for people,
delivering a sustained message 'You are important"
when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling
people what to do and instead work with them to
address the problems. These mentors are eventually
able to strike a balance between supporting and
challenging both nurturing people and pushing them
toward their goals.

6. Acknowledging reciprocity:::

While mentors often have to provide the initiative
early in the relationship as trust is being established,
mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and
struggles are present on both sides, and mentors
who are able to convey they are there for mutual
exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest
chance of making a solid connection.

7. Being realistic:::

Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help
people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin,
tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the
cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few
virtues in mentoring rival ongoing commitment and
genuine caring.

Anyway after listening to you on audio and meeting
you in person has turned on something inside like a
(multi colored) lightbulb and I can finally see the
forest of trees, shrubs, plants and animals for what
they really are, opportunity.

Thank You
Ernie Hines

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Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!

Lidie Gray
270-385-9885 (call anytime)
A Servant with a Mentor's Heart
Success In 10 Steps Free Ebook

Did You Read Your Network Marketing Company's Policies & Procedures?

When you start your network marketing home business you agree to your company's policies and procedures (P&P). You may not have to sign on the dotted line but you do have to check a box saying that you read and agree to them. Many people just click on this box and never read the P&P. It is very important to read and understand what you are signing. The Policies and Procedures are a legal contract between you and your network marketing company.

I was researching a company and wanted to find out more about it because the claims were just too good to be true. There were all kinds of testimonies on how quickly you could make "big money" and how simple it is to do…the "system" does it for you. Throughout the page there were places to enter your name and email for more information. Of course I didn't complete it. Since I know to read the company's P&P before doing anything else, I went down to the bottom of the page where I found this statement…

"By entering your details above you are agreeing to our:
Disclaimer - Terms of Use - Income Disclaimer - Privacy Policy"

Let me bring this to your attention: when you enter your name and email in one of the boxes throughout the page you agree to the "Disclaimer-Terms of Service-Income Disclaimer-Privacy Policy". You don't even have to click on a box saying that you read them and agreed to them. You enter into the agreement when you enter your information.

I clicked on "disclaimer" and was shocked when I read this clause…

"ALL WEB SITES, PRODUCTS AND SERVICES ARE PROVIDED, AS IS, WITHOUT WARRANTY OF ANY KIND, EITHER EXPRESS OR IMPLIED, INCLUDING, BUT NOT LIMITED TO, THE IMPLIED WARRANTIES OF MERCHANTABILITY AND FITNESS FOR A PARTICULAR PURPOSE. OUR COMPANY DOES NOT WARRANT, GUARANTEE, OR MAKE ANY REPRESENTATIONS REGARDING THE USE, OR THE RESULTS OF THE USE, OF THE WEB SITES, PRODUCTS, SERVICES OR WRITTEN MATERIALS IN THE TERMS OF CORRECTNESS, ACCURACY, RELIABILITY, CURRENTNESS OR OTHERWISE. THE ENTIRE RISK AS TO THE RESULTS AND PERFORMANCE OF THE WEB SITES, PRODUCTS AND SERVICES ARE ASSUMED BY YOU. IF THE WEB SITES, PRODUCTS, SERVICES OR WRITTEN MATERIALS ARE DEFECTIVE, YOU, AND NOT OUR COMPANY, ASSUME THE ENTIRE COST OF ALL NECESSARY SERVICING, REPAIR OR CORRECTION."

WOW! YOU, not the company, will assume the entire cost of all necessary services, repairs or correction if the web sites, products, services or written materials are defective. You are responsible for the company's "screw ups". Does this shock you? Does this sound like a company with integrity? Is this a company that you want to build your business with?

Did you read your network marketing company's policies and procedures? If you haven't don't you think you should?

Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!

Lidie Gray
A Mentor With a Servant's Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-Book

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Have you ever talked to a prospect who just didn’t get it?

Do you want to learn the secret language of prospects that INSTANTLY goes to their minds and hearts, so you can say just a few sentences and your prospects will lean forward?

Have you ever talked to a prospect who just didn’t get it?

What if you could talk directly to the prospect with the right words so s/he instantly understands your opportunity?

Sounds unbelievable, doesn’t it?

But consider this, by changing just a few words, a few sentences into the secret language that your prospects understand, everything will change in your business.

And the change will be spectacular!

Then, come to a live workshop with Michael Dlouhy

At this workshop you will learn …

Exactly what to say to prospects in their own language
How to turn skeptics into business partners
How to identify four personality types and what they want to hear
How to make prospects feel understood and connected
How to become a successful prospector with these new skills
How to improve communication among co-workers
How to understand even your own family members!
How to increase your income by knowing how others think
Seating at these workshops will be limited, so be sure to reserve a spot now.

(Schedule is below - check for a city near you.)

Dec 11 - Tampa FL
Dec 12 - St. Petersburg FL
Dec 13 - Fort Myers FL
Dec 14 - Vero Beach FL

For registration information call me @ 270-385-9885

Or email me @ lidiegray@gmail.com - put Talk to Prospects Tour in subject line

Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!

Lidie Gray
lidiegray@gmail.com
A Mentor With A Servant's Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-Book

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270-205-4168
lidiegray@gmail.com

Straight Talk About Network Marketing Leaders Part 3

In parts one and two you learned about two characteristics of an effective network marketer leader. First lead by serving, and second be gentle and kind. Remember that effective leadership is not simply about getting to the top, but it is about releasing others to do the same.

Honor is another characteristic of a “servant-leader”. This is the key to opening another person’s life and heart to your influence and direction. I’m not talking about influencing others in a manipulative sense, but a genuine willingness to place a priceless value on the people that are brought into your life or onto your team.

You show honor to others by simply being courteous enough to listen to and acknowledge their opinions. You give honor by quickly giving praise and recognition to your team members for their contributions and efforts.

Being a “servant-leader” opens the door for support, loyalty and cooperation of those who are part of your organization. When you approach others with gentleness and sincere honor you can be confident that people will want to join you in your business. Being a “servant-leader” in your network marketing business will bring you success in all that you do.

If you want to learn more about how to be an effective network-marketing leader then I invite you to join our team, Mentoring for Free, where you will learn “how to think, not what to think”. We offer free mentoring and coaching to all network marketers, no matter what company they are with.

I’m looking forward to serving you.

Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!

Lidie Gray
A Mentor with a Servant’s Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-book

Straight Talk About Network Marketing Leaders Part 2

In part one you learned about the first characteristic of an effective network marketer: lead first by serving and loving. Willingness to serve others will encourage and attract others to join you in your endeavors. Effective leadership is not simply about getting to the top, but it is about releasing others to do the same.

The second characteristic of an effective network-marketing leader is gentleness…having a gracious and honorable manner. Gentleness is a characteristic of a “servant leader” but is often missed. Gentleness is not a sign of weakness, but it springs forth from confidence in knowing that you have whatever it takes within you to be an effective leader. It is confidence in knowing who you are and that you put others interests before your own. You do not override someone else’s will, but are respectful of their free will.

A gentle leader inspires confidence in others and draws out the best efforts of the team. People respond more openly to a leader who treats them with kindness and gentleness. Network-marketing leaders with a gentle character are a source of inspiration for their team.

Watch for the third characteristic of an effective network-marketing leader to be posted in a couple of days.

If you want to learn more about how to be an effective network-marketing leader then I invite you to join our team, Mentoring for Free, where you will learn “how to think not what to think”. We offer free mentoring and coaching to all network marketers, no matter what company they are with.

I’m looking forward to serving you.

Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!

Lidie Gray
A Mentor with a Servant’s Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-book

Straight Talk About Network Marketing Leaders Part 1

Effective network marketing leaders give direction and motivate their team to action. They are sincerely interested in the welfare of those whom they lead. They will not force, intimidate, coerce or push anyone into doing something against their will. Effective leadership is not simply about getting to the top, but it is about releasing others to do the same.

The first and main characteristic of an effective network marketer is being a “servant-leader”; you lead first by serving and loving. Your willingness to serve others will encourage and attract others to join you in your endeavors. When you contribute to another person’s profitability you prove your faithfulness to him or her, thus you contribute to your own profitability.

Not every effective leader is a “servant-leader”. Take Hitler, for example: he was very effective in motivating others but he was evil and “unimaginably destructive”. It is important to know the characteristics of a “servant-leader” so that you do not innocently end up following a leader who will ultimately destroy you. Or so you will not become an “authority seeker” which ultimately ends up in destroying your followers as well as yourself.

“Authority seekers” seek authority over people; money and control are their bottom line. These are the people who try to exercise authority when they have not been given the responsibility: remember responsibility precedes authority, thus “authority seekers” do not fall under the characteristics of a “servant-leader”. They do not seek to contribute to the welfare of others.

Watch for the second characteristic of an effective network-marketing leader to be posted in a couple of days.

If you want to learn more about how to be an effective network-marketing leader then I invite you to join our team, Mentoring for Free, where you will learn “how to think not what to think”. We offer free mentoring and coaching to all network marketers, no matter what company they are with.

I’m looking forward to serving you.

Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!

Lidie Gray
A Mentor with a Servant’s Heart
Success in 10 Steps Free E-book