The e-mail below from Ernie who was at the Jacksonville
Freedom Tour seminar gives the best explanation of what
"BEING" a "Mentor With A Servant's Heart" is all about.
Ernie sent this to Michael Dlouhy and I thought that I would
share it with you. Please call me at 270-205-4168 or send email to
lidiegray@gmail.com to find out if Michael is coming to your area.
You don't want to miss out on this event.
Begin email...
Hi Michael, it's Ernie Hines writing to thank you for
sharing your Books and CD's as they have had a profound
impact on the way I Desire to conduct myself and my
business..
Throughout history the passing on of wisdom and practical
knowledge has been done by mentoring from parents, grand
parents, teachers, leaders, coaches, coworkers and friends.
I have found the word goes back to Homer's Odyssey a
story which tells how before leaving on his long journey,
Odysseus asked a close friend to watch over and guide
his son. That friend's name was Mentor.
Having been with Mentoring for Free less than a month,
has allowed me to study and make some observations
from the book by Marc Freedman, "The kindness of
strangers" that there are 7 habits of highly effective
mentors and they are first and foremost
1. Listening:::
It is the only way mentors can understand what people
are up against and where opportunities for developing
the relationship can be discovered.
2. Building a relationship:::
In the hurry to make a difference, mentors can forget to
take time to build a relationship and establish a firm
connection. this means carefully cultivating trust..It
means being patient. Many people will test mentors
to see if they are for real.
3. Respecting boundaries:::
When mentors ask people personal questions before
a solid relationship has been established, the most
common response is silence. People will clam up.
Mentors who do not respect their mentees' needs
for privacy are often quick to alienate them.
4. Being sensitive to differences:::
It is necessary to realize that mentors and those
they work with come from different worlds, a reality
even for mentors who have grown up disadvantaged.
This means being aware of the embarrassment a
person might feel about being poor.
5. Providing support and challenges:::
Successful mentors are consistently there for people,
delivering a sustained message 'You are important"
when problems arise, effective mentors resist telling
people what to do and instead work with them to
address the problems. These mentors are eventually
able to strike a balance between supporting and
challenging both nurturing people and pushing them
toward their goals.
6. Acknowledging reciprocity:::
While mentors often have to provide the initiative
early in the relationship as trust is being established,
mentoring is a two-way street. Growth, benefits and
struggles are present on both sides, and mentors
who are able to convey they are there for mutual
exchange, not just solve problems stand the greatest
chance of making a solid connection.
7. Being realistic:::
Few mentors turn lives around, but mentors who help
people move toward achievable goals can make a real
contribution. Often this means having thick skin,
tolerating unreturned phone calls, accepting the
cultural gaps that must be bridged. In the end, few
virtues in mentoring rival ongoing commitment and
genuine caring.
Anyway after listening to you on audio and meeting
you in person has turned on something inside like a
(multi colored) lightbulb and I can finally see the
forest of trees, shrubs, plants and animals for what
they really are, opportunity.
Thank You
Ernie Hines
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Be the Leader You Were Created to Be!
Lidie Gray
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A Servant with a Mentor's Heart
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